Don’t rape

I recently came over two blogposts about rape, they are both in Swedish so I don’t know if anyone’s interested in reading them. (links will be provided in the end of this post)

One of the posts said:

Society teaches Don’t get raped rather than Don’t rape

With the following guide:

A Comprehensive Guide to Preventing Assault!
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.
And the other post was a picture of a poster saying (loosely translated):
“Five tips to avoid rape:
Respect a no
You have a choice
Drink with care
Report your friends
Imagine being in the victim’s shoes”
And I realized that most tips you get (as a girl) are about not becoming the victim; don’t walk alone in the dark, don’t wear short skirts, don’t talk to strangers, don’t this and don’t that… So if I walk home in the dark, in a short skirt, and meet a stranger who asks for directions or the time, it would be my own fault if I got raped, because I didn’t follow the tips…
Okay, enough about that. I just wanted to share those posts, not start yet another argument about rape. It happens, it’s not nice, and it should never be done, but it is, and all we really can do is make sure we don’t become the perpetrator. Let’s leave it at that. (If you want to discuss rape, I’m sure there is a blog somewhere out there who’d want to discuss it with you.)
And in that light I’d like to share yet another post, not really about the same matter, but similar, and to lighten the mood a bit: Passive or judging? 🙂
The two Swedish sites: here and here

One thought on “Don’t rape

  1. Two things:

    1) If anyone actually is looking for a blog regarding rape, I’ve sorta tried to address these same things more in depth.

    2) Thank you for sharing this. Seriously, I cannot hammer away at this idea enough: rape is caused by rapists, not by the victims’ behavior. The more people remind everyone of that, the better chance things have of improving ^^

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